Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

11/22/2017

Written by: @GabDiesendorf

The people we choose to surround ourselves with say so much about us. We love being surrounded by people who make us feel good, help us grow and the people who we simply love being seen with. But for some, it takes a long time to find their own tribe. As we walk through life, we will lose some people along the way, and meet some new ones. They are all a part of our tribe, and finding people who are the best fit for us isn’t always easy. So, let’s see what we can do to find and keep our tribe by our side.

Move in the right circles

The best way to find people with similar interests, beliefs and thoughts is to go to places people similar to us visit. This is the simplest step, because those are the places where we like to spend time. This works both online and offline: Facebook groups, cafes, galleries, classes, concerts and even your favorite shops are all places where like-minded people gather. Don’t be afraid to share your passion, because you will never be able to find people who love the same things if you don’t let them know what those things are.

Be yourself

If you spend all of your time trying to be someone else – then who’s going to be you? Giving yourself permission to truly be you is the best gift you will ever receive. No matter how weird and quirky you might be, you need to be unapologetically you. Talk about the TV show theories, wear the amber necklaces, listen to the unpopular music, and be all of the things that make you as wonderful as you are. If you pretend to be someone else, you will attract people who want to be with that persona, instead of the real you, and you will risk either staying in that character for a long time, or being alone when you let your real self shine. Remember that you are guaranteed to find people who will love you for you, if only you let them.

Look the part

You are not at all a superficial person if you think that the way you present yourself matters. With billions of people in the world, we can’t approach every single one and meet them to find out who they really are – sometimes we just have to decide based on their looks. People usually try to express their personalities with the clothes they wear. If you are not sure what your style should look like, you can look at examples of various ladies’ fashion styles, and once you something that looks like an outfit you would want to be associated with, give it a go. Whether that’s edgy, vintage, tacky, comfy or elegant, make sure it is something you feel comfortable in and something that you are proud to wear.

Be engaging and positive

The only people who like negative people – are negative people. If you want to find people who are happy, loving and positive, you need to put those exact things out into the world. Like a boomerang, the things we give come back to us, and if you have nothing but good vibes, positive energy and smiles, it will come back to you multiplied! Similarly, you want to make sure that people see you and know who you are. Of course, some people are naturally shy, and you definitely don’t have to stand in the spotlight all of the time, but you need to understand that the only way to make good friends is to go out there and meet people.

After you surround yourself with people who you love and who love you back, you will see just how easier all of life’s hurdles are to overcome. Once you find your tribe, make sure you do everything in your power to keep it: stay in touch, even if you are not physically close and stay relevant in each other’s lives. If someone leaves your tribe, wish them farewell and all the best, and look only forward, to all of the new friendships that are yet to come.