Moms, You’re Doing a Great Job – Mommy Blogger


Moms, You’re Doing a Great Job – Mommy Blogger

June 19, 2020

My name is Teri and I’m the proud mama of a busy, hilarious, brilliant toddler and an awesome, beautiful, rapidly changing baby. Being a mom is a challenging and beautiful adventure that nothing else in my life prepared me for. Luckily, I have an amazing husband who is there through all the ups and downs, awesome friends who are happy to share their parenting knowledge (or at least laugh with me through the chaos!), and an extended family who is always ready to help. I work as a marketing and communications professional when I’m not at home on maternity leave, and I love sharing my experiences as a mom.

I am more than nine months into my maternity leave, and this is my second, so I was more aware of what to expect this time. I love the time with my babies, but I also don’t do well with all the solitude. Knowing from experience how important it is to take care of myself too, I made a “self-care list” before Baby 2 was born—something I could refer to in those moments when I needed something to feel more like myself, and to be a better mom.

The first thing on my list was time with other people, and I made a point of doing just that for the first few months. Visits with friends and relatives, play dates with mama friends who were also on mat leave, Mommy Connections classes—I made a point of connecting with other people in my world, with my son. Even when we didn’t have plans to see anyone specific, we would try to get out of the house at least once a day.

And then the world essentially shut down. Like everyone else, I wasn’t expecting it. Suddenly, my husband was working from home and we had pulled our two-year-old out of daycare. Things were louder, busier and much more challenging, although definitely not lonely. But I was also cut off from everyone else, at least from in-person visits. And suddenly item number one on my self-care list wasn’t an option anymore.

Even as the province slowly starts to open up, things remain so strange right now that there is literally no precedent. So for all of us who are occasionally/frequently/always feeling less than our best these days, here are some reminders:

You are doing great.

If your kid had extra screen time today (and the day before, and the day before), you’re a good mom.

If they ate McDonalds for lunch, you’re a good mom.

If they snacked all morning and then refused to eat lunch, you’re a good mom.

If you’re finding time to try new recipes and new ways to hide vegetables in things, you’re a good mom.

If you’re doing elaborate crafts with your little ones, you’re a good mom.

If your version of a craft is a paper airplane, you’re a good mom.

If you’re educating yourself about the Black Lives Matter movement and the push for long-overdue change in the world, you’re a good mom.

If you’re celebrating Pride and teaching your kids about the importance of all forms of love, you’re a good mom.

If you’re juggling a full-time job, full-time childcare and running a household (and maybe feel like you’re failing at all three), you’re a good mom.

If you’re on maternity leave and feeling guilty about being exhausted because you’re “just” parenting and not layering job responsibilities on top of it, you’re a good mom.

You are doing the best you can. We’re all doing the best we can. Be kind to each other. Hug your kids. One day we might look back and feel grateful we had this extra time with our loved ones. We might even miss it.

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